Abacus Coaching
Helping high-achieving women ditch the mental gymnastics of alcohol & break the stigma
Abacus Coaching
Helping high-achieving women ditch the mental gymnastics of alcohol & break the stigma
Is that whisper getting louder?
Listen to it.
Do you feel like you don’t fit the narrative around alcohol, but something feels off?
- You don’t have to hit rock bottom to question your relationship with alcohol.
- You don’t have to fit into society’s mold to socialize and have fun.
- You qualify for a life alcohol-free—and together, I’ll show you how.
Stop agonizing over your next move. Let's strategize together.
3 Simple Steps to Start Shifting to an Alcohol-Free Lifestyle
- Book your free discovery call.
- Get a customized roadmap for your alcohol free life.
- Step confidently into the life you're meant to lead.
I get it—because I was you. I was wrestling with this nagging whisper, "Is alcohol stealing more than it's giving?"
That whisper inside? It turned into a roar.
I didn’t abandon everything—I realigned. I found the RIGHT support and I redefined success on my own terms. And now I help women like you do the same.
Through evidence-based coaching, we’ll:
- Uncover what truly matters to you, lean into your core values.
- Break the cycle of "rewarding" yourself with alcohol, and discover what you're really feeling, and what you deeply need.
- Create a roadmap to authentic, sustainable success
You don’t have to figure this out alone.
At Abacus Life Coaching, I help high-achieving women in high-pressure careers break free from the patterns that are holding them back—especially the one they rarely talk about: alcohol.
Whether it’s a nightly glass of wine that’s turned into a crutch, or the growing realization that alcohol is keeping you stuck—in your career, your motherhood, your sense of self—this is your moment to reclaim your power.
Together, through research-backed coaching strategies, we’ll uncover what truly matters to you, reconnect you with your purpose, and create a plan to help you navigate life’s transitions with clarity and confidence. We’ll silence the doubts, reframe the fears, and empower you to take the lead in writing the next chapter of your story—a chapter that feels authentic, exciting, and deeply fulfilling.
This isn’t just coaching—it’s your transformation.
You don’t have to keep living a life designed by expectations, job titles, or Pinot Noir at 5pm.
Take a breath.
Take back your Sundays. Wake up excited, HELLO MONDAY! Live a life that’s yours—one that feels aligned, vibrant, and alcohol-free.
The life you’ve been longing for is already waiting for you. Let’s rewrite your story, together.
Start your coaching journey today.
Strategy is key
own your evenings again
Navigate relationships with confidence
THE TRUTH ABOUT MODERATION
Time to ditch the mental fog and decision fatigue. Break the cycle of stress and sipping.
You’ve earned your downtime—don’t waste it numbing out. Learn how to unwind with intention, establish evening rituals that truly restore you, and wake up energized (not regretting last night’s “just one glass”).
THE TRUTH ABOUT MODERATION
Navigate relationships with confidence
THE TRUTH ABOUT MODERATION
You don’t have to keep proving you can “control it.”
Let’s be honest: moderation is exhausting. If cutting back isn’t cutting it, I’ll help you ditch the mental gymnastics and reclaim your energy for what really matters. Freedom is easier than you think.
Navigate relationships with confidence
Navigate relationships with confidence
Navigate relationships with confidence
You’ve changed—and that’s okay.
Early alcohol-free life can feel lonely, but you don’t have to explain yourself to everyone. Learn how to set boundaries, communicate with clarity, and protect your energy—while staying connected to those who truly support your growth.
motherhood, mindfully
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
Navigate relationships with confidence
Show up fully present—for them and for you.
Alcohol might feel like the only escape from the chaos—but what if you didn’t need to escape? Learn how to parent with clarity, patience, and peace by taking alcohol out of the equation—and stepping into your real power as a mom.
Being alcohol Free, not being isolated
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
Build a life—and network—that supports your growth.
You’ll learn how to navigate social settings, career events, and everyday life confidently without alcohol, while cultivating connections that uplift and align with your alcohol-free life.
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
For my leaders: lead culture, not cocktail hours
You don’t need booze to bond or lead effectively. Discover how to foster authentic connection, team trust, and a positive culture—without compromising your values or relying on alcohol to set the tone.
Personal Coaching
Personal Coaching
Personal Coaching
1-1 coaching, tailored specifically to your goals! This is not a one size fits all approach.
Meet Your Personal Coach, Jess!
Hi, I’m Jess—founder of Abacus Life Coaching, on a mission to break the stigma around alcohol-free living.
As a recovering public educator and school leader, I understand alcohol's quiet, yet powerful role in our lives. I specialize in helping high-achieving women—executives, moms, perfectionists, and career-driven powerhouses—break free
Hi, I’m Jess—founder of Abacus Life Coaching, on a mission to break the stigma around alcohol-free living.
As a recovering public educator and school leader, I understand alcohol's quiet, yet powerful role in our lives. I specialize in helping high-achieving women—executives, moms, perfectionists, and career-driven powerhouses—break free from the “golden handcuffs” of success and the quiet grip alcohol has on their lives.
You’ve built the life everyone else envies: the salary, the title, the family, the accolades. But if you’re honest?
It doesn’t feel like success—not anymore.
You’ve started questioning your relationship with alcohol. Not because you’ve hit rock bottom or lost it all, but because you’re outgrowing it—and letting it go is proving harder than you expected.
Maybe alcohol used to be your way to unwind, connect, or escape. Now? It’s starting to feel like a limitation disguised as a lifeline—draining your energy, dulling your edge, and keeping you stuck in a cycle of burnout, perfectionism, and pretending everything is “fine.”
Here’s the truth: You don’t have to settle for fine.
At Abacus, we tackle more than just alcohol—we rewrite the story you’ve been telling yourself.
Together, we’ll use evidence-based coaching and the science of neuroplasticity (yes, your brain can rewire itself) to:
- Shift your habits and break free from alcohol’s hold
- Reclaim your evenings, your clarity, and your confidence
- Redesign a career—and life—that aligns with who you truly are
Translation: You’re not stuck—you’re on the edge of your next chapter. And it’s alcohol-free.
I work with powerhouse women—leaders, entrepreneurs, and overachievers—who’ve shattered glass ceilings, only to quietly wonder:
“Is this really what happiness feels like?”
Spoiler alert: It wasn’t. And alcohol wasn’t helping.
You’re allowed to want more. More clarity. More purpose. More peace. More you.
If you’ve made it this far, I’m betting on you.
You’re ready to take the next step—not because you’re broken, but because you’re ready to grow.
Let’s move the beads of your own abacus—one aligned, alcohol-free shift at a time.
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Abacus Services
Coaching Investments
I offer 1-1 virtual coaching through several different investments.
Investment 1: The Reset – 4 Weeks to Clarity & Control (4 sessions | 4 weeks) Who This is For: You’re curious about what life without alcohol feels like but aren’t sure if you’re ready for a big commitment. You just want to hit pause, clear your mind, and see what’s possible when alcohol isn’t in the way.
Investment 2: The Breakthrough – 8 Weeks to Confidence & Empowerment (8 sessions | 8 weeks) Who This is For: You’ve tried to cut back (or even take a break) before, but something keeps pulling you back in. You’re tired of the mental tug-of-war and want real strategies to help you feel strong, confident, and fully in control of your choices
Investment 3: The Elevation – 12 Weeks to Total Freedom & Transformation (12 sessions | 12 weeks) Who This is For: You already know alcohol has been holding you back—from feeling fully present as a parent to going after the next level in your career. You’re done settling for just okay and ready to break free from the cycle for good.
*Pricing details will be shared during your free discovery call, where we'll determine the best package and approach to meet your unique needs. See FAQs for more info!
Client Testimonials
"Before Jess, I didn’t know how much alcohol was costing me, not just physically, but emotionally and professionally. I’d convinced myself it was just part of the job, the networking, the client dinners, the happy hours. But deep down, I felt out of alignment and honestly, exhausted. Jess created a space where I could be honest without shame. Her approach is grounded, practical, and real. I now run my business alcohol-free, feel more energized than I have in years, and for the first time, I’m making decisions from a place of clarity—not coping. This work has changed my life."
-Rachel, Entrepreneur
"I thought giving up alcohol meant giving up fun, connection, and success. Jess proved the opposite. I feel more in control, more alive, and more me than I have in years."
-Jennifer, SAHM
"Working with Jess was a game-changer. She helped me see my ‘stuck’ moments as opportunities and guided me to take steps I didn’t even know I was capable of. I’m finally in a career that excites me and a life that feels aligned. Thank you, Jess!"
— Sarah, Educator turned Consultant
"Jess has this incredible way of mixing strategy with humor. She doesn’t just tell you what to do—she helps you figure out what you truly want. I’m more patient, more confident, and finally feel like I’m in the driver’s seat of my life again."
— Emily, Mom of Two and Speech Pathologist
Jess helped me see opportunities where I saw difficulties and reminded me of my "why" when I was in the thick of transitioning large parts of my life. Jess is committed to encouragement and understanding and helped me make large strides in my life. I'm so grateful for my time with Jess."
-Katie, Educator turned Novelist
"Before coaching with Jess, I felt like I was spinning my wheels. But now, I’ve made real progress toward goals I’ve had for years. She’s like a compass and a cheerleader all in one, and I couldn’t recommend her enough."
— Amanda, Entrepreneur